Unfortunately, male flight attendants are more often attacked both verbally and physically. People are more willing to shout at a man than at a woman. Some passengers are bigoted towards gay people (and I hate to stereotype, but usually Southerners) and mistreat male F/As on purpose, regardless of thier sexual orientation.
The male flight attendant has long been a subject of ridicule in popular culture. The guy stew is always killed first in movies. The public has little idea what being a flight attendant is, instead going with the image of the sexy stewardess who serves cocktails and fulfills fantasies. To this day, movie and TV F/As wear hooker outfits and funny hats. Gay men are constantly demonized on film, and male F/As on film are pretty much always vile, offensive, gay stereotypes. Never do you see a portayal of a heterosexual male F/A, a female F/A in her fifties, a normal gay man, or anyone who cares much about thier career. I'm not even going to get into how, in movies, they take off in a DC10 but then are in a 747 once airborne. :blink:
Sadly, many moons ago, the airlines used sex as a selling point, putting thier cabin crew in the middle of it. That was a different time, and the world, and its values have changed. Sadly, the image of the stewardess has never died in popular culture, and the less worldly still expect that. Some people don't like male flight attendants just as they don't like a female pilot.
I recently saw Kelly Preston being interviewed by Carson Daly (whos a dooshbag anyway) about her role as a flight attendant in a recent film, and she mentioned a real life F/A (male) that is a friend of her and her husband, John Travolta. Carson Daly looked at her and said "There are male flight attendants? Erghh... what do they do?" and the audience howled. Some people outside of the industry (and some in who don't respect the F/A profession- for example young and immature commuter pilots) think a flight attendant should be a pretty, young girl in a sexy outfit who flirts, rather than a highly trained, middle-aged man who requests that you not smoke onboard.
US Airways in particular has/had a high percentage of guys in thier ranks, whereas from what I've heard they are a small minority at some other carriers. Generalizing again, I've found that the men (straight or gay) seem to be more up on industry terminology and events- most are aviation enthusiasts.
I think what PineyBob sees is that some remain professional and try harder, and some become bitter more quickly.